By User12601034-Oracle on Apr 01, 2015
Smile at people every day; Talk to my team to really get to know them; Remember to marry employee desires to corporate strategy; Know the top three things that motivate each employee; Help tie personal goals to corporate goals; Have 1:1 meetings; Have career conversations with each employee; Avoid blame; Bring others along on a change journey; Build trust; Maintain integrity; Build meaningful relationships and networks; Conduct an annual performance review; Be vulnerable...be strong; Communicate often...don't over-communicate.
I'm sure you get the picture. So, I've boiled it down to just one single rule for being a great leader: Treat everyone on your team the way you would like to be treated.
This is a rule that was drilled into us in kindergarten, but
somewhere along the way, we forgot about it. It's the "Golden Rule" in
many religions, but somewhere along the way, we forgot about it. It's
the rule of the philosopher Plato when he said "Be kind, for everyone is
fighting a hard battle." But we forget about it.
Instead, we rush to work in a traffic jam that is being created just
to piss us off and start our day off wrong. The person in front of you
saw you coming up to the door and slammed it in your face instead. The
one employee that you really needed to perform today should know that
you need more from them. And why did your whole team decide to slack
off when you needed them working hard. By golly, you have a right to be
mad as hell and take it out on everyone!
But we forget.
Take a deep breath.
That traffic jam occurred because there was an accident on the
highway, and someone was killed. The person going through the door in
front of you happened to be blind and didn't even know you were there.
The distracted employee just learned yesterday that her parent had a
stroke. And that team that wasn't working...they were working to
support their co-worker who was just diagnosed with cancer.
Treat everyone on your team the way you would like to be treated.
Instead of being mad that a traffic jam exists, use the time to think
about how you're going to approach a specific problem. Instead of
assuming ill-intent from your employee, ask her "I notice that you're
attention isn't really here today. Is something going on?" Instead of
being mad that someone in front of you didn't hold the door, hold the
door for the person behind you. And instead of assuming that your team
isn't working, ask them what is top of their mind.
Most people don't wake up and plan how they are going to make
everyone around them miserable. They don't plan how badly they can
screw up at work. They don't plan how they're going to make everyone
else look bad.
So the next time you are interacting with your employees, think about how you would like to be treated. Ask instead of assuming. Listen with respect. Show compassion. Act like a human being. Remember Plato's advice to "Be kind." Chances are pretty good that you'll learn something about your employees, and they'll learn that you are, indeed, a great leader.