By PeteH on Oct 03, 2007
Just finished reading "Goal-Free Living: How to Have the Life You Want NOW!" by Stephen M. Shapiro. Recommended reading for anyone who has that lurking suspicion that there's more to life than what they're doing.
I enjoyed reading the book and it was a refreshingly intelligent contrast to the more usual business/life/self-help books. Similar to the latter there's an element of "this worked for me, it can work for you too!" - Stephen has done very well as a motivational speaker - but he does document many people's goal-free successes - are we're talking happiness, not necessarily money.
There are some excellent reviews and interviews available so I won't duplicate that effort, check:
My personal take was one of identification. I'm a little wary of how we tend to identify ourselves when it suits us, much like horoscopes, however it rang true for me in a number of places. The book lists eight 'secrets' and then fleshes them out with details such as the how and why. While you could just read the secrets and put the book back on the shelf it's worthwhile reading about the people Stephen interviewed as he worked on the book. As copied from the Amazon Editorial Review ...
- Use a compass, not a mapHave a sense of direction, and then let yourself wander and try new things on the way to fulfilling your aspirations.
- Trust that you are never lostEvery seemingly wrong turn is an opportunity to learn and experience new things.
- Remember that opportunity knocks often, but sometimes softlyWhile blindly pursuing our goals, we often miss unexpected and wonderful possibilities.
- Want what you haveMeasure your life by your own yardstick and appreciate who you are, what you do, and what you have . . . now.
- Seek out adventureTreat your life like the one-time-only journey it is and revel in new and different experiences.
- Become a people magnetConstantly seek, build, and nurture relationships with new people so that you always have the support and camaraderie of others.
- Embrace your limitsTransform your inadequacies and boundaries into unique qualities you can use to your advantage.
- Remain detachedFocus on the present, act with a commitment to the future, and avoid worrying about how things will turn out.
I particularly like 1 (use a compass not a map) and 4 (want what you have).
I was reminded of a BBC 1 documentary and accompanying book called "In Search of Happiness" by Angus Deayton. Superficially it was about finding the strangest things that people do that make them happy and make jokes about them. More fundamentally it illustrated that happiness is subjective and not necessarily the goal-orientated, financial, career-enhancing future we so often seek.
Note that 'goal-free' doesn't mean 'goal-less'. Read the book for more details.
In the meantime it is probably worth mentioning that I've taken a management role at Sun. Still working in the same area (Solaris Engineering) but understanding how the organisation and people work rather than the kernel. How goal-free is that?
Don't get me started on SMART goals. That's another blog entry ...