To avoid being disillusioned ..

.. stop having illusions.


How often have each of us been disillusioned with at least some of the people around us, the ones we interact with ? Hindsight, they say is 100% right; in hindsight, some or many of our disillusionment experiences may have stemmed from our own illusions and false or unrealistic expectations we've harbored about the way people ought to act, react and interact upon, to and with us.


In this context, it seems apt to remember the statement, "To avoid disillusionment with human nature, we must first give up our illusions about it."


As Abraham Maslow put it, "There are no perfect human beings! Persons can be found who are good, very good indeed, and even great. There do in fact exist creators, seers, sages, saints, shakers, and movers... even if they are uncommon and do not come by the dozen. And yet these very same people can at times be boring, irritating, petulant, selfish, angry, or depressed..."


Is'nt it then, about time we adjusted our systems to be tuned into reality than try and lead a futile existence in an utopian mirage ! I'll sign-off this post with a passage by Dr. Kent Keith which is also referred to as the "Paradoxical Commandments" ...


People are unreasonable, illogical and self-centered.
Love them anyway.

If you do good, people will accuse you of selfish, ulterior motives.
Do good anyway.

If you are successful, you will win false friends and true enemies.
Succeed anyway.

The good you do today will be forgotten tomorrow.
Do good anyway.

Honesty and frankness make you vulnerable.
Be honest and frank anyway.

The biggest person with the biggest ideas can be shot down by the smallest person with the smallest mind.
Think big anyway.

What you spend years building may be destroyed overnight.
Build anyway.

People really need help but may attack if you help them.
Help people anyway.

Give the world the best you have and you might get kicked in the teeth.
Give the world the best you've got anyway.

Comments:

Zuigan called out to himself every day: `Master.'

Then he answered himself: `Yes, sir.'

And after that he added: `Become sober.'

Again he answered: `Yes, sir.'

`And after that,' he continued, `do not be deceived by others.'

`Yes, sir; yes, sir,' he answered.

http://www.ibiblio.org/zen/gateless-gate/12.html

Posted by Mikael Gueck on September 24, 2007 at 10:37 AM IST #

There are those who can't not straighten the crooked picture on the wall. Others will hesitate, worried about what someone will think. Maslow: "Step forward into growth or back into safety." And we shouldn't fear the godlike in ourselves. RE: Utopia, if not us who?

Posted by Sam Cannon on September 25, 2007 at 01:27 PM IST #

Mikael / Sam : thanks for your comments

Posted by John Morrison on September 25, 2007 at 02:04 PM IST #

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