I got engaged on Facebook!
By drapeau on Apr 08, 2008
I got engaged about six months ago, and in December my fiancee decided to update our friendship status on Facebook. The way you do that is to update your profile to say "I am now engaged to so-and-so." Simple enough; my fiancee updated her relationship status, and I got a message from Facebook that said:
<your fiancee> said on Facebook that you two are engaged. We need you to confirm that you are, in fact, engaged to <your fiancee>. To confirm this relationship request, follow the link below.
I suppose that's a good thing: I don't want just anybody to declare they are engaged to me and have Facebook shout it to the world without my approval. It seemed a little silly to me, but I went into Facebook and confirmed that, yes I am engaged to the person who updated our relationship status.
But I don't check Facebook incessantly, and there was a lag between the time my fiancee made the relationship-status-upgrade request\* and when I confirmed. Meanwhile, one of my close friends logged into her Facebook account and saw a status update message about me: it told her that "<my fiancee> and George Drapeau ended their relationship." She immediately sent me a panicked message (through Facebook, of course) to ask if I neglected to tell her something. I assured her that we were okay, it was just a Facebook thing.
I guess Facebook is taking the safe route: until you confirm a relationship change, you are in relationship-limbo. Maybe this is the Facebook version of two-phase commit (no pun intended, for you computer geeks out there).
I tell ya though: I'm a little bit nervous about changing my status this Saturday to "Married". Does this mean we'll have to break up first? And what if somebody else swoops in with a relationship update request to one of us while we're waiting for the confirmation to go through? This is turning into the most stressful part of the wedding planning; sheesh!
\* In the future, marriage proposals will sound like this: "If I updated my Facebook relationship status to say that I am engaged with you, would you click the 'Confirm' button?" "Yes, I would be happy to confirm lol"