Monday Dec 17, 2007

Zi Qi Qi Ren & Amped Emotions Attack

Before you think Dan has fallen off the deep end let me give you some background. I have been going through the Deadly Viper Character Assassins book with some friends, so this post come with that as a background. The character assassin of Zi Qi Qi Ren basically translates to “self deception while deceiving others”. So where did this attack come from you ask? Well I am glad you did ask because that is what I am here to tell you.

As you may know my family was just blessed with receiving a new baby into this world and what a blessing from God she is. We are also blessed to live here in Michigan where we receive from time to time snow. The two days after our girl was born it snowed, so the day we came home from the hospital our driveway and sidewalks were covered in snow, heavy wet slushy snow. I being a new daddy did not have any of the energy needed to head out, grab the shovel and clean of the drive and walks. So instead I hunkered down in the house with my wife and two daughters for family time and some sleep when we could get it. One could say I was hiding in the shadows and thinking, oh my kind hearted neighbors with snow blowers will take care of the walks at least and maybe even the drive. Wrong! There are several of my neighbors that have snow blowers and knew that we had our new baby, what’s wrong with them… come on people. Well there is where the amped emotions kicked in, I was grumbling to myself and my wife about how I can’t believe that no one has come over to clear off the walks or drive. Then it snowed again… and yesterday a lot more. So I rise up early before leaving for church and pull the four wheel drive vehicle out into the street and get the minivan started to warm up. You guessed it, we got the van stuck in our own driveway… grumble grumble… we can take care of this our selves…. Right, so after church I had to stick around, so I sent my wife, two daughters and mother-in-law home in the van with instructions to square up to the drive and they should be able to make it. Smack! Nope, when I arrived home a couple hours later I found the van stuck at the end of the drive and the trail leading up to the garage. I headed in to find out what went wrong and get the keys to give it a try myself. As I entered the house the phone rang and it was a neighbor offering to help me get the van unstuck as well as wondering why we did not ask for help, he would have gladly come over to snow blow off the drive and walk. Well of course… why think everyone is going to help, no just hide in the shadows and grumble right? The Lord again used this to teach me humility and a lesson that I knew and even spoke only a couple weeks back with the staff. Also, turns out that a lady at our church has a snow blower that she loaned me for the day so I did get the drive and walks cleared off.

So how deep are you going to get the snow get? How much grumbling are you going to do with your eyes squinting out the window at your neighbors? How long are you going to hide in the house and deceive yourself? Here is the answer, don’t get yourself stuck in your own driveway twice, be humble and ask for help. Let the Lord speak through the hands of those around you.

For what it's worth.

Friday Nov 16, 2007

Now Reading: Deadly Viper Character Assassins

I am currently reading Deadly Viper Character Assassins. This was recommended by a friend who is always out there helping me in leadership development. I headed out and ordered a copy for myself and a team that I work with so that we could all work through the leadership development. Just a few pages in and I was totally convicted by the words that were flowing off the page and to the heart. The book talks about the assassins in the world that come to destroy ones character and integrity. There is a battle going on every day for each of us, some of us recognize it and battle daily against it and the rest are in denial.

Early in the discussion of the first assassin it dives into being brutally blunt (honest) with folks and how we have a few people in our lives that we can do that with. I reflects on the fact that the more senior of a leadership position one holds the less honest criticism one will receive from those around them... boils down to someone not wanting to make a career limiting move in the workplace.

I have sent off a few emails in my time here that I wondered if I should have sent... so far they have not limited my but only time will tell. It is also nice to have senior leadership that strive for transparency and honesty from top down so hopefully conversations we have through out the chain would not be considered career limiting if they are honest and truthful.

Are you in denial or on the offensive?

For what it's worth.

Update: Zi Qi Qi Ren & Amped Emotions Attack




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